No one can be your guru except Life itself.
Your parents can’t be your guru. Spiritual teachers can’t be your guru. Tony Robbins can’t be your guru.
Everyone has their own unique path to trek and explore. You have your own journey that no one can give you directions for. Life is your northern star in the vast space as you travel through your life.
Some people feel they have the wisdom they can share with others but the deepest wisdoms are limitless and cannot be uttered with words. Life shows you the way through direct experiences. You, the soul, the witness consciousness.
These experiences are so unique to you, no one has ever experienced them before nor will anyone else experience them in the future.
Who else had the exact experiences you had witnessed before in the exact sequence? There are almost an infinite number of moments happening in the Universe at any given moment. You just happen to experience this particular moment shown to you by Life. How amazing is that?
I had recently watched a documentary Three Identical Strangers. The movie showed a story about three identical triplets who were separated at birth but by Life’s hand reunited when they started college.
They were so similar in their physical appearances, demeanors and personalities that you’d think they were clones. Despite all the identicalness of their outer forms, they could not be any more different in their formless inner worlds. The initial high slowly faded away as they discovered just how little they knew about each other as if they were just strangers living together who looked the same.
The triplets experienced different childhoods as they grew up. They each had unique experiences which shaped who they had become in adulthood. How can they explain to each other every experience they ever had up to the point they met?
When you think about it, just how much do people really know you? Even some of the closest people whom you spend most of your time with. Do they truly know you? Have they experienced the same moments you have?
There are thousands of books on self-improvement. It’s one of the most popular genre behind romance. The authors of those books give advices to the masses like medicines that can cure any disease.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t read or take advices from others. By all means, learn the teachings from others. Some might be good while some might be useless. I’m just noting the fact what might work for one person with his or her unique experiences might not work for you. Your own experience is the best teacher in the end.
Everything has its own nature and vibration. A dolphin doesn’t feel the same as a tiger. A rose doesn’t feel the same as a tree. One person doesn’t feel the same as another person. Each come into our senses and stimulate us differently.
You have a nature. You’re born for a reason in a sense. If your parents didn’t conceive you at that particular moment or they didn’t meet for some reason or their own parents didn’t meet, you wouldn’t be here right now reading this.
Your nature has the physical form of a human being. At the same time, you have all those moments you have accumulated as experiences from Life that shaped you into who are you right now. If any one of those moments appeared to you differently, you wouldn’t be the being you are right now.
You could say Life made everything happen. So wouldn’t you trust Her more to show you the way?
All of our fears, worries and anxiety about the future stem from the fact that we do not trust Life. Your mind plays a trick on you because it thinks it can take control of life. Newsflash. The moment you’re experiencing in front of you has nothing to do with you.
This moment is the accumulation of ALL of the past moments chained together to make this moment possible. You’re experiencing a tiny part of the collective moments as a whole. These moments have been here before you were born and they will continue to happen when you die.
It’s nothing personal but your mind makes it personal for you. And you start to believe it as you become identified with your mind.
Once you let that go and trust Life, you will start to see the harmonies of life played out in front of you. Some events will be so unbelievable that you might take them as miracles.
If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be. It’s amazing to be there witnessing everything that happens when you harmonize with Life.
Another trick your mind plays on you is being impatient. You want it now. “Why do I have to wait?” or “I wish it was the future already so I don’t have to wait through all of this.” Your mind would say. Believe me. I would know. My mind still blabs about this too sometimes.
Patience is a virtue.
We have much to learn from Nature and particularly the trees. They are always there long before we were born and will be there long after us. It doesn’t matter whether there is sun light, rain, snow, wind and all the other elements of life, they always will be there providing shades and shelters for any being. The trees show love to everything regardless of their nature. Their patience is magnanimous.
The only way out of impatience is through awareness. Become aware of your mind’s personal preference and let it go. Let Life unfolds the way to you as it should. Trust Her completely and let go. She is teaching you lessons about life itself if you choose to listen.
How you learn from Her is by reflection. You might not be able to take in the lessons right then but by using your mind to recall the experiences from your life, you are able to discern some of the lessons from Life.
These are the true teachings tailored to your own unique being. No one can understand you better than Life. Let Life be your only guru.
Take a few experiences from your past as a starting point for your reflection. How have those experiences changed you into who you are right now? Take a few moments to appreciate how Life had to unfold exactly it did for those moments to happen.
Even with what you thought were the ‘bad’ moments you had experienced, what became of them as more moments kept unfolding as the chain kept linking?
A great habit to get into is write a journal entry everyday. It’s a good way to reflect and recall back the moments that Life had unfolded in front of you daily.